People never really contemplate the effects that can follow a divorce. "Divorce can be an emotionally difficult experience, especially if children are involved." When children are involved complications arise. For instance, who the child is going to live with is a major problem that arises. "In most cases, custody is shared between divorced parents in one form or another meaning that parents will have to work out schedules of exchanges or visitations, and provide for emergency changes to the schedule that may arise." It is extremely hard for the child to cooperate when arguments break out between the mom and dad about where the child will live. More than once the child will get mad at the parents, and say stuff like, "I don't want to live with either one of you."
It helps the child more if the parents cooperate by doing their part, and making it easier on the kids by talking positively about things in front of each other. "The way spouses talk about each other in front of or to the child can impact the way the child perceives things." The way the parents act toward each other generally rubs off on the child, leading to the child bringing their feelings to the surface when they are around people their own age. For example, bullying problems in our schools today. "Parenting time, including custody and visitation exchanges, should be accomplished with predictable routines in an atmosphere with low conflict and stress." If the parents do not express conflict around the child less stress is brought to the child. In the end, in order to make it easier on the child try and not to show exactly how strongly you despise each other directly in front of or within ear shot of the child.
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